Happy Tuesday, friends!
You should know by now that I’m doing a weekly series on the lives of 20-somethings, but if you have no idea what I’m talking about, you should read about it right now.
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Today’s guest post is coming from one of my favorite people ever. She’s hilarious, she’s wise, she has a faith and trust in Jesus that is beyond admirable, and she’s one of my best friends. Her name is Lauren Nitzschke.
Talking to Lauren is a breath of fresh air. Whether I’m struggling to find my calling in life, or working through tough issues with a friend, she’s always been there to give me sound advice and to bring my perspective back to Jesus. We all need a friend like that and I realize daily that I’m lucky to have her!
Her post today is one of surrender; surrendering to God’s plan when we don’t understand at all what He’s doing, wondering if he really cares and has our best interest in mind. Faith in Christ doesn’t mean things will be easy. We won’t always have a grip on what’s coming next. If anything we’re usually stepping blindly into our next step. But when you surrender your life to God, you’re giving up that control. You’re saying “your will, God, not mine”. Even if His plans look different from what you want.
I love being single.
And I’m not just saying those words so I don’t come across as needy and desperate for a man.
I truly mean it.
Unfortunately, I think a lot of single women say they “like” being single because they want to convince the world they aren’t lonely. “I tolerate being single” would be more along the lines of how they feel.
They’re hiding behind a facade of reassurances that say, “don’t worry about me”. But they’re covering up a massive wound with a tiny bandage.
Too many lies bog women down when it comes to their singleness. Lies like, “when I’m content in my singleness, that’s when Jesus will decide to bring a man in my life.” Or “God doesn’t really have my best intentions in mind.”
Have you ever thought or said these things? I sure have. But do you really think the will of God changes depending on how you feel at the moment? Do you believe our God would withhold things He sees as good?
Earlier this year, one of my lifelong dreams went down the drain. I told Jesus if I wasn’t supposed to walk towards a certain career path that He should stop me, because I was going after it full force.
Well, He shut the door hard.
This got me thinking: I should be praying this prayer not only about the dreams for my career, but about the deepest desires of my heart! Sometimes they’re the same thing. But we will fight tooth and nail over those “untouchable” longings before we give it over to the God who actually put those good desires in our hearts in the first place.
So I prayed. Almost reluctantly, at first. But over time, it’s gotten easier. I prayed the Lord would change the longings of my heart if they didn’t line up with His will. (This is a prayer believers should pray every day. We must pray about becoming more and more like Jesus, and that journey starts in our hearts.)
“Lord, if I am not supposed to be married, please change that desire I have. Give me a heart that is overflowing with joy from my singleness. Your will, Jesus, not mine.”
And you know what? I don’t know what He’s doing in the long run, but I do know that today I love being single. And I can only say that by the grace of God. He sees it as good for me to be single. So who am I to think that my Good Father withholds good gifts from His children?
Single ladies, I totally understand your feelings of loneliness. God created that intrinsic longing for us to be in relationship with others. Thankfully, we can have the deepest friendship and relationship with Jesus, the God who is and of Himself, Love. He is the only One who can ultimately satisfy our longings and desires.
Therefore, I challenge women of all marital statuses: pray that difficult prayer. The one that Jesus fervently spoke in the garden before He was sacrificed on the cross for our sins.
“Not my will, Lord, but yours be done.”
Thanks for sharing your story and beautiful heart with us today, Lauren. God is using you in amazing ways!
A little over a year ago, Lauren was traveling overseas doing mission work with an organization called The World Race. She wrote a lot about her experiences on her World Race blog and I encourage you to check it out. Her stories of the adventures she had, the people she met, and the ways God moved while she was out there are truly inspiring.
As always, friends, I hope you enjoyed this edition of #TwentyTuesdays and hope to see you back here next week!
Love you guys,