Good afternoon, friends!
I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s Insta-recap of 2015 and have maybe done a little recap of your own.
Today we have a #TwentyTuesdays guest post from my fellow writer and internet-friend Anna Kaye Gilbreath! I met Anna Kaye during a writer’s retreat in Atlanta back in 2014. She is so sweet and has a beautiful way with words! As her 30’s are growing near, she wanted to express to you guys some things she would tell her 20-something self. Enjoy!
I’m in the last year of my 20’s, so I have a few more months to loop myself into this category before the big 3-0. During this season of my life, I feel like it’s been a series of one transition after another. This can be an extremely challenging time in your life. Here are a few points I hope can help you as you embark on this uncertain journey of a 20-something.
- Have Courage
If you are a recent postgrad, you had no idea how this “adulting” thing works in your twenties. Companies say they won’t hire you because you don’t have enough experience but how to do you get experience without a job? How does networking even work anyways? Take a deep breath. You don’t have to have everything figured out once you flip the tassel on your graduation cap. It’s easy to become paralyzed by fear of the future. You are not alone in your struggle. Seek friends or family or a close mentor to help you along the way.
- Be Kind
It’s so easy to become discouraged about where you are in life, professionally and personally, and feel like you aren’t doing enough or being enough. Give yourself (and others) grace and speak words of encouragement. You are exactly where you need to be at this point in your life, even if you don’t understand the significance of it. Surround yourself with others who will build you up. There is enough negativity in the world, no need to internalize it. I am a big advocate of self-care and I urge you to find things in your life you can do just for you.
- Take Risks
The biggest risk I made in my 20’s was moving 800 miles to a new state. I took a job I thought was my dream job only to be laid off six weeks later. Needless to say I was devastated. Thankfully Jesus was faithful in providing a new job a few months later. Would I go back and do it again? Definitely. I know that sounds terrifying and believe me that was one of my fears about accepting the job. But during those dark periods it helped me learn to lean on others for help and most importantly that my identity is not based in my job.
- Develop Discipline
I’m preaching to myself on this point. Pick an area in your life that you know needs improvement. Have your eating habits slacked off since you started working in an office environment? Do you need to learn to make spending time with the Lord more of a priority? Or what about learning to develop a better attitude at your job? Is there a hobby you’ve always wanted to try but never actively pursued? Your 20’s is the perfect time in your life to start implementing those practices.
- Trust Jesus
I use to think growing up was a roller coaster incline slope. Once I reach a particular milestone everything will be smooth sailing. Except my roller coaster ride consisted of crazy twists and turns the way life was created and I’m holding on to the bar with both hands. Jesus knows our fears of the future. He understands how easy it is to succumb to our feelings rather than our faith. Take Proverbs 3:5-6 to heart and know that he is for you. He desires good things for you but he also wants you to step out and trust that he has you in the palm of his hand.
Remember, your 20-something story is not going to be the same as anyone else’s. It’s okay if you haven’t met the love of your life, or climbed the corporate ladder, or gone on adventures yet. Seek to live life abundantly no matter where your zip code may take you.
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” E.E. Cummings
I love this. I love that our twenties are about learning and growing and not having it all figured out and that’s okay. And to hear those words from someone who’s “been there done that” is beneficial. Thanks for sharing, Anna Kaye! (You can find ways to keep up with Anna Kaye at the bottom of the page!)
To all you 20-somethings out there reading this, consider sharing your story with #TwentyTuesdays! Words are powerful and can encourage others to know they aren’t alone. Your story is important. I want to share it.
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Until next time!
Love you guys,
More about Anna Kaye
Anna Kaye Gilbreath is a Tennessee native currently living in the sunshine state (Florida). She is passionate about writing, reading and caffeine. Feel free to contact her via Twitter, Instagram or her website.